Our new columnist Dom McMurray focuses on all aspects of our emotional wellbeing, mental health and how this is intrinsically linked to our physical fitness
Thank you for sharing what you’re going through. It’s completely understandable that facing a long, uncertain redundancy process would drain your energy and motivation.
Rather than trying to disregard difficult experiences or emotions — instead, it can be helpful to accept them as valid and real, while at the same time committing to actions that align with your values.
Right now, you might be experiencing low mood, anxiety, or frustration. Your self-esteem has likely taken a beating; you might be feeling a sense of shame and isolation — these are all natural responses to a major life disruption.
Rather than trying to push these feelings away, what would it be like to make space for them? Try to notice them without judgment.
You might say to yourself: “I notice I’m feeling unmotivated,” rather than “I shouldn’t be feeling this way.” This shift in language helps defuse an internal struggle and can prevent negative thoughts from spiralling.
Next, think about your core ‘values’. What does fitness mean to you — energy, resilience, self-care, fun? Reconnecting with the deeper “why” behind your fitness goals can help you focus on how exercise makes you feel rather than seeing it as a regime that must be adhered to.
From there, begin with small, achievable steps. Think in terms of committed action, not perfect action. That might mean a 10-minute walk, stretching in the morning, or scheduling one fitness session a week. These aren’t about forcing motivation but building a sense of agency and alignment with your values.
Finally, be kind to yourself. You’re navigating uncertainty, so showing up in small ways — even when it’s hard — is a sign of real strength.
You don’t need to wait to feel “ready” or “motivated.” You just need to start with where you are.
About Dom
Before qualifying as a Counsellor, I worked in a creative sector for both large corporates and my own business. After the Covid lockdown I set up a local running group to provide peer to peer mental health support.
This inspired my training to become a qualified counsellor. I am passionate about taking a holistic approach to wellbeing and how our physical, mental and emotional health are all connected.
